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Reminds me of my high school friends

Attributed to Jeff Wilson (editor-supplied)

The Signal has an interesting article in today’s paper about the mother of a 14 year Saugus high student who’s upset about reading material the school assigned her. The material has:

“The Glass Castle” is a 2005 memoir by Jeannette Walls that chronicles Walls’ harsh childhood and family life.

The book includes profanity, criticisms of Christianity and accounts of sexual abuse and prostitution.

“I just felt that those things were not in place at school,” Riddle said.

“I think we have to remember that (students are) not adults and that we have to be very careful with what we’re assigning them. They’re still forming opinions.”

Curious, I checked this book out on Amazon to get a synopsis:

Jeannette Walls’s father always called her “Mountain Goat” and there’s perhaps no more apt nickname for a girl who navigated a sheer and towering cliff of childhood both daily and stoically. In The Glass Castle, Walls chronicles her upbringing at the hands of eccentric, nomadic parents–Rose Mary, her frustrated-artist mother, and Rex, her brilliant, alcoholic father. To call the elder Walls’s childrearing style laissez faire would be putting it mildly. As Rose Mary and Rex, motivated by whims and paranoia, uprooted their kids time and again, the youngsters (Walls, her brother and two sisters) were left largely to their own devices. But while Rex and Rose Mary firmly believed children learned best from their own mistakes, they themselves never seemed to do so, repeating the same disastrous patterns that eventually landed them on the streets. Walls describes in fascinating detail what it was to be a child in this family, from the embarrassing (wearing shoes held together with safety pins; using markers to color her skin in an effort to camouflage holes in her pants) to the horrific (being told, after a creepy uncle pleasured himself in close proximity, that sexual assault is a crime of perception; and being pimped by her father at a bar). Though Walls has well earned the right to complain, at no point does she play the victim. In fact, Walls’ removed, nonjudgmental stance is initially startling, since many of the circumstances she describes could be categorized as abusive (and unquestioningly neglectful). But on the contrary, Walls respects her parents’ knack for making hardships feel like adventures, and her love for them–despite their overwhelming self-absorption–resonates from cover to cover.

When I read the description aloud to my wife, she thought it might be a bit inappropriate for a 14 year old high school student.

But then again, she reflected, when she was a child behind the Iron Curtain she read the Greek classics with loads of gory sexual innuendo and activities. And at that age as a Catholic school boy, I was reading Huck Finn, Judy Bloom and other books that at the very least, were controversial and banned at one time or another. As far as the Bible- well King David wasn’t exactly a stand-up guy when he killed Bathsheba’s husband and took her as his wife, but we read about him too.

Maybe this Saugus High mother ought to do what one of my high school friend’s mothers did. I was good friends with an LDS kid named Ben. Ben and I loved Tom Clancy-type techno-thrillers. One summer, we swapped books; I gave him a book by Larry Bond and he gave me a similar book about an F-14 fighter pilot. I began reading the book that night and found it odd that no less than five words had been blacked out in the first chapter. Paging through the book, I found hundreds of blacked out words, sentences, even wholesale paragraphs. What’s more, I found an entire chapter had been torn from the book.

It turns out Ben’s mother had pre-censored the book before she allowed her son to read it. She blacked out all the curse words, sexual innuendo, and more. That missing chapter? It was five page chapter describing the sex scene between the protagonist and his lady friend. Oddly enough the mom didn’t black out or censor any of the violence in the book; she only felt her son should be protected from sex and bad words.

When I asked Ben about this he didn’t think it was a big deal. Needless to say I didn’t get books from him anymore, and I worried what his mom would think about me if she learned I had given Ben a book that wasn’t censored.

I’m not sure what I’ll do in situations like this when/if I become a parent. I’d like to think I’d take the time to study the material with my kid and help them understand it and learn from it rather than pressure the school district to censor it.

 
Reminds me of my high school friends

Comments (22)

  1. JackieNovember 1, 2009 at 9:45 am
    GREAT question. Is the line of inappropriate content drawn differently in literary works than in movies? We certainly wouldn’t allow a movie with that content. Having said that, there are so many incredible books that have more adult themes.
  2. SusanNovember 1, 2009 at 10:02 am
    I agree with you wholeheartedly. One of the great things about reading as a teenager was learning about lives different to mine. I read a lot of stuff that was risqué and I loved it. It was a nice private way to rebel about parents. At school we read some serious books full of sex, swear words and the rest but it was great for discussion and as students we loved it as we were being treated more maturely. I have no problem with what they are reading.
  3. Tim HaddockNovember 1, 2009 at 10:19 am
    Do parents honestly think anything in a school approved piece of literature is any more offensive or suggestive than the lyrics in some of the music teenagers listen to? Almost every student in high school has an iPod. Questionable music blares throughout campuses during lunch and breaks. Parents don’t have to look far to find offensive material in school. The last place to find it is in an honors English class. These are supposed to be smart kids, smart enough to understand the reason and purpose of having such language and scenes in certain books and stories. Give the honors kids some credit for being able to comprehend the material they are reading, if they read it at all.
  4. soccermomNovember 1, 2009 at 10:52 am
    I read this article and I couldn’t believe that “The Bean Trees” was the other problem book. I read this years ago and I don’t remember anything explicit. I think I would have remembered anything risque. It was a pretty mild book but a good story.
  5. BrianNovember 1, 2009 at 11:15 am
    The Outsiders The Butterfly Revolution The Bounty Trilogy Life isn’t all Disney, and reading of things terrible is a part of growing up and realizing this fact. Did these parents actually ever think what’s in a fairy tale? Many of them are about the Black Death. Ring around the rosie?
  6. Berta González-HarperNovember 1, 2009 at 11:55 am
    Hey Jeff you missed another article of interest in the Signal regarding Newhall Business owners wanting applications for redeveloment grants (free money) in Spanish. I’ll start of this discussion: I am Hispanic and not a racist by any means. I am bilingual English/Spanish. My parents taught us Spanish at home and we learned English in school. My parents and their generation understood that this was not their country of original and that people here speak English. They went to night school to learn English and asked me or my brothers to translate if it was something beyond their night school skills. This is what immigrants from many different countries did. My father emmigrated legally from Spain and my mother emmigrated legally from Mexico. They had to have sponsors, jobs, clean bill of health, no criminal background, etc before they were allowed to enter this country. They did not come asking for a hand out but instead worked hard and gave back to their adopted country. They instilled in their children the notion that you pay your own way and follow the rules. If you think the rules are unfair, work within the system to change them. We as a country should stop trying to cater to everyone who wants special treatment. It costs taxpayer money to translate everything into other languages, Spanish or whatever. I guarantee you Mexico, Honduras, Guatemala, Korea, China, etc would not translate documents into English for Americans, you would have to pay to have that service performed. None of those countries would welcome you without proper documents for an extended stay, and provide you with free housing, medical, food subsidies, etc. We won’t talk about what happens to foreign criminals in their jails. By all means be proud of your heritage, native language and culture but recognize this is the USA and we speak English here.
  7. spineflower2November 1, 2009 at 5:34 pm
    Hmmm, I guess it’s a good thing we don’t allow Bible study in public schools; that book is full of sex and sin.
  8. FredNovember 1, 2009 at 6:46 pm
    Hmmm, I guess it’s a good thing we don’t allow Bible study in public schools; that book is full of sex and sin. Amen to that… Generally the people they have gotten to teach it in the past were idiots.
  9. Timothy MyersNovember 1, 2009 at 6:58 pm
    Somebody didn’t turn there book report in on time!
  10. Samuel AdamsNovember 1, 2009 at 10:32 pm
    My understanding is the parents can always opt out and request a different approved book.
  11. lvogelNovember 2, 2009 at 10:30 am
    The can Samuel and they should be able to. However, if I don’t have a problem with my child reading a well written and award winning memoir, then they should be able to enjoy it and perhaps learn about other’s lives from it. There were many aspects of The Glass Castle that I could relate to, however my children could not. To understand that others lives are very different than your own can only help our children, in the long run.
  12. navigatorNovember 2, 2009 at 10:43 am
    I recall one of the books that was required reading when I was in school, “Catcher In The Rye”. That wasn’t exactly “Mary Poppins”. I have to keep asking, how the heck did we survive as children. Berta, a big WELL SAID to you.
  13. lvogelNovember 2, 2009 at 11:21 am
    One of the most loneliness characters in Catcher In The Rye. A very vivid view of a young man who just didn’t have the security and self-confidence enough to make relationships/friendships. I went back and forth of feeling a great deal of sympathy and anger with him.
  14. mikeNovember 2, 2009 at 11:24 am
    SPOILER ALERT!
  15. lvogelNovember 2, 2009 at 11:43 am
    Oh sorry, didn’t know anyone was going to read it.
  16. mikeNovember 2, 2009 at 12:00 pm
    just kidding!
  17. Berta González-HarperNovember 2, 2009 at 3:46 pm
    Thanks Navigator for your comment. I just want people to know that not all Hispanics agree with some of the current policies. We need to elect leaders who are not afraid to protect the interests of the AMERICAN citizen. I don’t beleive we are obligated to support and provide services for everyone simply because they are in this country, particularly those who are uninvited guests.
  18. christinaNovember 2, 2009 at 4:38 pm
    Parents can be so overbearing. If a school, run by actual educators, deems a literary text appropriate for a certain age range, kids should be able to read it. I say cut the cord and let kids actually experience a good book that isn’t rooted in greek mythology or based on 17th century england. It’s relevant. Modern, if you will, and possibly offers something to which today’s kids can relate. Perhaps I’m out of line here, but maybe the only reason parents are jumping on this particular book is due to the fact that they can actually undertand the text.
  19. JaneNovember 2, 2009 at 6:03 pm
    A bit late here, but don’t recent studies suggest that kids are exploring their sexuality at earlier and earlier ages? Most suggest starting the “sex talk” with your child when they are about 5 to at least open the door to trust on this topic. I would think that kids in high school would have already heard a lot from their friends. This mom sticking her head in the sand is doing her child no favors.
  20. lvogelNovember 2, 2009 at 6:31 pm
    There is nothing in that book that kids have not seen in movies, t.v. shows, or in the news. You’d be surprised at how many parents still suggest to their young ones that they came by stork or were grown in the garden!
  21. navigatorNovember 3, 2009 at 1:57 pm
    Uh, they weren’t?
  22. lvogelNovember 3, 2009 at 5:45 pm
    NO! Aisle 12, right next to the freezer section…DUH!

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